While I was on my routine visit to Astoria Bookshop, I came across a book that grabbed my attention: In Love in New York: A Guide to the Most Romantic Destinations in the Greatest City in the World (Rizzoli) by Caitlin Leffel and Jacob Lehman.
Loving a firefighter when you have an anxious mind is a blessing and a curse.
Many of the posts on Wife Behind the Fire are great launching pads from which I can develop and convey my opinion and experiences. There was a lot of bitterness and frustration with the lifestyle of a firefighter girlfriend, and that kept me quiet and unable to communicate for a seemingly never-ending period of time. Now that the academy is over, and I have my own experiences, as the partner of one of New York’s Bravest, I want to develop a voice as a woman behind the fire.
We are now two full days into Week Four and communication is still an issue. We are both adjusting. Always adjusting.
Oddly enough, The Man and I had our first “academy era” fight during the week that he had “Mask Appreciation Day.”
I have always wanted to be a more efficient person. Though I try and organize, I always felt that it was hard to get to that ideal flow because living as a single unit, having only a handful of family and social events a month to handle. When The Man was working in an office, dinners were discussed via text during the day, lunches were purchased, and coffee was made once we were up, around 8am.
I’ve scoured the internet for blogs and information that supports the wives, girlfriends, and partners of firefighters. There aren’t that many that address one of my obstacles, in terms of their firefighter being in the academy: communication changes.
I, like most women in New York City associate firemen with sex appeal. There is something inherently seductive in being a strong person who runs into dangerous situations to save lives. Unfortunately, so many just see the strong body and big muscles and think it’s hot. Let’s face it: Most women objectify firemen the way most men objectify Victoria’s Secret models. It’s rarely the heroic selflessness of the individual that is a turn-on in and of itself.