The Lady and the Firefighter

Finding a Balance of Sweet and Heat



52 Ways to be Grateful for the Fire Life

Expressing gratitude isn’t a job or a task with no reward. As with any aspect of life, and especially when it comes to relationships, it’s really important to express these thoughts and their attached emotions to increase your presence, focus, connection, and in turn, your own happiness. Continue reading “52 Ways to be Grateful for the Fire Life”

Alcohol Abuse in the Fire Industry and How to Forgive

Forgiveness is key in any relationship, and at multiple points in one’s life. Sometimes you have to forgive someone who forgot your birthday, someone who broke your heart, or someone who falls victim to their own mind.

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Staying Busy During a 24-Hour Tour

A 24-hour shift is nothing new when it comes to the work schedule of a firefighter. It’s an adjustment, and while most partners will get used to it, some continue to struggle.

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In Love in New York: The Unexpected Lesson Learned in Buffalo

When you love someone from Buffalo, New York, you really have no choice but to develop some good, old-fashioned, chicken wing-type Western New York pride.

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In Love in New York: My First Place in Chinatown

Your first apartment.

No one forgets what it was like– Small, large, cramped, shared, spacious, noisy, off-the-beaten-path.

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In Love in New York: First Impressions

While I was on my routine visit to Astoria Bookshop, I came across a book that grabbed my attention: In Love in New York: A Guide to the Most Romantic Destinations in the Greatest City in the World (Rizzoli) by Caitlin Leffel and Jacob Lehman.

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I Wasn’t Prepared For This

The truth of the matter is that I don’t know how to communicate the struggles of any life situation until I have emerged, gloriously and beautifully, on the other side. The last ten weeks is no exception, but I am going to try.

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After Week One – Changes in me. Changes in us.

I have always wanted to be a more efficient person. Though I try and organize, I always felt that it was hard to get to that ideal flow because living as a single unit, having only a handful of family and social events a month to handle. When The Man was working in an office, dinners were discussed via text during the day, lunches were purchased, and coffee was made once we were up, around 8am.

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Dealing with Communication Blackouts

I’ve scoured the internet for blogs and information that supports the wives, girlfriends, and partners of firefighters. There aren’t that many that address one of my obstacles, in terms of their firefighter being in the academy: communication changes.

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