The Lady and the Firefighter

Finding a Balance of Sweet and Heat



From the Heart: Dealing With Grief and Loss

If there’s one thing that I can’t say enough, it is this: the key to success in any interaction is open and honest communication. It’s not just how we portray ourselves, but how we perceive others’ actions, words, desires, and needs.
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Communicating or Arguing?

Many of the posts on Wife Behind the Fire are great launching pads from which I can develop and convey my opinion and experiences. There was a lot of bitterness and frustration with the lifestyle of a firefighter girlfriend, and that kept me quiet and unable to communicate for a seemingly never-ending period of time. Now that the academy is over, and I have my own experiences, as the partner of one of New York’s Bravest, I want to develop a voice as a woman behind the fire.

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I Wasn’t Prepared For This

The truth of the matter is that I don’t know how to communicate the struggles of any life situation until I have emerged, gloriously and beautifully, on the other side. The last ten weeks is no exception, but I am going to try.

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Finding Common Ground: Lily the Lionhead Rabbit

We are now two full days into Week Four and communication is still an issue. We are both adjusting. Always adjusting.

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Lonlieness: Us Time is now Study Time

In his corporate-America days, The Man would come home from work around 6pm, Mondays through Fridays. I work from home three days a week, so three out of five days, it was just us for at least six hours.

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Dealing with Communication Blackouts

I’ve scoured the internet for blogs and information that supports the wives, girlfriends, and partners of firefighters. There aren’t that many that address one of my obstacles, in terms of their firefighter being in the academy: communication changes.

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