This morning, I was speaking with my mother about not receiving what I give out to certain people recently. She has always said I’m too nice to people, and they take advantage of me. She thinks I need to stand up for myself and be meaner.

I was trying to lead by example. When people are mean, I try to be nicer to show them what I want. When people don’t clean up after themselves, I become extra diligent in neatening up. It hasn’t worked.

This morning I finally watched this video that has been floating around “social” media lately. If you watch it, you’ll see why I put “social” in quotations. The point is, that in a day of iMacs, iPods, and iPhones, where everything is about “I” and selfies, is it any surprise that those around me never noticed my actions and how they should actually treat me?

People! For the love of god, please notice if and when your partner is putting away the phone and making you number one. He or she is trying to show you that dinner, a movie on the couch, a walk in the park, all with you, is more important than any tweet, Facebook notification, text, phone call. When you live phone in hand, you are telling that person that the same isn’t true in your mind. If you don’t realize the error in your ways, realize you’ll have followers, likes, and internet friends, but you won’t have the person who just wanted to hug you.