I wear makeup. I put on lipstick to go to yoga.
Does that mean that I’m insecure? Do I think I’m ugly? Do I wear it so other people think I’m pretty?
There’s a part of me that screams yes to each of those questions.
At the same time, I can still say that I love my adorably flawed face. The dark corners of my eyes, the small dark spots from old zits, and big pores are conventionally unattractive. Sometimes I care about them. Sometimes I don’t.
When I Googled “to wear makeup or not,” there were countless pages telling me why makeup is bad for skin, how to look good without makeup, and if guys think women should wear makeup. It is understandable to expose some of the nasty side effects of makeup. Not all makeup is made equal and with the consumer’s skin health in mind. However, tutorials on how to look good without primer, foundation, mascara, eye shadow, eyebrow pencils, eyeliners, false eyelashes, blush, lip primer, lip liner, lipstick, and lip gloss, seems to be slightly demeaning. Every woman, deserves to feel like she’s naturally beautiful.
The Great Makeup Debate is superficial by definition. Physical appearance and maintenance differs based on personal preferences and willingness to dedicate time! That is something that we have to accept. To say that a confident, strong woman doesn’t wear makeup makes it sound as though women who do wear it are the weak pawns in a patriarchal society. She is just as beautiful as the woman who flaunts the bags under her eyes. I think it’s great that some women can save their money and buy shoes instead of ten shades of lipstick each season. I fear that this debate has the power to become another woman-bashing-woman debate, as other superficial and female-oriented debates have in the past.
It’s like Tyrion said in George R.R. Martin’s A Song of Fire and Ice: Game of Thrones: “Never forget what you are. The rest of the world will not. Wear it like armor, and it can never be used to hurt you.”
Are you plagued with the scars of acne from yesteryear? Were you dealt an awesome genetic hand and your skin is naturally radiant and smooth? Wear it, and be proud regardless. Unless you’re a celebrity (which is the sad, sad truth), I honestly think the faster you accept your own appearance, and preferences to wear or not wear makeup, the faster you’ll find truth in the old saying “Those who matter don’t care, and those who care don’t matter.”
Carry on, you beautiful women!